Hello, dear Sugar Pie! I have a question for you! When you’re alone with your thoughts, what do you tell yourself about YOU? Are your thoughts sweet, encouraging, and grace-filled? Or are they unkind, discouraging, regretful and hurtful?
To be honest, I’ve struggled with feelings of inferiority and thoughts of not being good enough my whole life…not smart enough, talented enough, pretty enough, not the perfect weight or personality. Even now at my age, I think those thoughts especially when I compare myself with others (comparison… that’s a whole other blog post!). Thoughts of not being the best mother, wife, homemaker, or person that I could be. Are you in the same boat as me?
Well, I want to show you something that I hope will change those negative thoughts and instead bless sweet, adorable you!
Watch this before reading the rest of this post:
So powerful!!
Little Ruthie age 6
No way would I tell little Ruthie to her face the negative things I’ve told myself! I have to remember that cute little girl is inside of me! No way do I want to say unkind things to her! That is so sad and mean! We need to be our own best friend, our own nurturing mama, our own cheerleader!
You know, when God looks at you and when God looks at me He’s thinking “That’s my sweet girl!”.
He delights in you and me! He sings songs over us! Wait. What? Yes!!! Read this;
“For the Lord your God is living among you.
He is a mighty savior.
He will take delight in you with gladness.
With his love, he will calm all your fears.
He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.”
Zephaniah 3:17
I can imagine God singing His own version
of Stevie Wonder’s song over us!
“Isn’t she lovely!
Isn’t she wonderful!
Isn’t she precious!”
We need to change the way we think about ourselves. The way we speak to ourselves. It’s not to disregard the need and desire to change and improve because growing and becoming a better person is a good thing. But as my sister-in-law says “we don’t need to spank ourselves every day” when we don’t meet our own expectations. Instead, let’s give grace to ourselves. Because we are all a work in progress! And I say progress, not perfection! When we don’t feel like we did our best at something we can just say I’ll do better tomorrow!
“Tomorrow! Tomorrow!
I love ya, tomorrow,
you’re only a day away!”
– Annie, the musical
Here’s the thing, God’s mercies are new every morning.
YAY!!
“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.”
Lamentations 3:22-23
Oh! God is so good to us!
Here are a few things my pastor shared at church this week (click here to hear his message):
- You will not change your life until you change your thinking.
- The enemy puts self-defeating thoughts in your mind…He attacks us in our thoughts. It’s a stronghold. Recognize it when it happens.
- Instead of dwelling on those negative thoughts, replace negative thinking with God’s Word and worship.
- Quote the Word of God.
- Don’t believe the lie that you are not good enough!
One of my favorite verses is Psalm 139:13-18
“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit them together in my mother’s womb. 14 Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! It is amazing to think about. Your workmanship is marvelous—and how well I know it. 15 You were there while I was being formed in utter seclusion! 16 You saw me before I was born and scheduled each day of my life before I began to breathe. Every day was recorded in your book!
17-18 How precious it is, Lord, to realize that you are thinking about me constantly! I can’t even count how many times a day your thoughts turn toward me. And when I waken in the morning, you are still thinking of me!”
“Three persons of the Trinity – Father God, Jesus Christ, and Holy Spirit – gathered close together TO IMAGINE YOU!”
-Ann Voskamp
Little Ruthie age 4
When we belittle ourselves we discount the workmanship of God, our Heavenly Father, the creator of the universe! It’s like telling him He didn’t do a good job. Ummm, that’s a big fat lie from the enemy.
I want you to find a picture of your little sweet self like I did. Put it somewhere where you can see it often. Think of grace-filled, encouraging and nurturing words to say to her…YOU! Words that remind yourself that you are loved and precious in God’s sight!
“Your love, O Lord, reaches to the heavens, your faithfulness to the skies. Your righteousness is like the mighty mountains, your justice like the great deep.” Psalm 36:5-6
“How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! ” 1 John 3:1
So no more putting yourself down. Deal? Here’s the thing, our negative emotions affect us so deeply that it also affects those around us. So the more grace and kindness that we fill our hearts with the more grace and kindness we will be able to pour into others. And that’s a good thing.
Take good care of yourself
and guard
your beautiful little girl heart!
Aunt Ruthie
Hi Aunt Ruthie! I struggle with this all the time. Daily. Thanks for your encouragment. Recently my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. She is the one I messaged you about and sent a pic of her and my daughters. She does fashion programs and owns a vintage clothing store and shop in sedalia Mo. Things have been tough but my family is trusting in the Lord and believing for a healing miracle tor my mom. I would apreciate your prayers! Blessings!
Excellent truths to hear from the Word of God!
Excellent truths from God’s Word to ponder and know.
Oh my goodness! The pearls! LOVE!!!
Oh, sweet Lady, I could have written this about myself… but not nearly as well. These things I know in my heart, it’s just getting the negative thoughts out of my mjind. Is it sad to say I’m glad I’m not alone…. we’re made in His image so we can’t help but be beautiful! Thank you so much for this reminder.
thank you love all of it..God bless
Beautiful photos, Summer is so much like you.
Thank you Ruthie.
This is the perfect moment for me to read it! We had a family party yesterday – and I came home full of feelings like “I could have done that better – I shouldnt have said this – I made too many mistakes some years ago – those people dont realy like me….” From all this thinking about it I felt realy cold and tired this morning, reading your text made me feel warm in ONE moment (well, maybe 2 minutes). Thank you so much – and thank you LORD that you just made me read it at the right time :)
This is the perfect moment for me to read it! We had a family party yesterday – and I came home full of joy to see my family, but feelings like “I could have done that better – I shouldnt have said this – I made too many mistakes some years ago – those people dont realy like me….” From all this thinking about it I felt realy cold and tired this morning, reading your text made me feel warm in ONE moment (well, maybe 2 minutes). Thank you so much – and thank you LORD that you just made me read it at the right time :)
Thank you so much for sharing this! and for being such a great inspiration!
Auntie,
I do, struggle with this. I am struggling with it now. I was raised in a good home, but I was never enough. For anyone. Now I am in a relationship with a wonderful man, we love each other very much, but we are also very different. And the differences are making me question myself and our relationship. I am scared to lose him, but I want him to be happy. Prayers please for us and for all.
Thank you, Aunt Ruthie, for the idea of placing a photo out where I can see it, to talk to myself as I would have talked to the little girl in the photo, had I had the wisdom I have now, speaking truth and encouraging words. I would never have told that little girl she didn’t have any special gifts, or she didn’t measure up to others in this way or that. I would have only encouraged her to keep trying and do her own personal best, that God loves her and she only needs to be concerned about pleasing Him!
These words are a balm to my soul. You have no idea. Thank you for being an amazing Titus 2 woman! ♡♡
Aunt Ruthie This is by far one of you Best Posts , It hits home in so many ways, and Psalm 139 is one of my favorites from way back. God Bless Ann H.
I needed this. Thank you.
Aunt Ruthie,
I have often said the same words to my students. One student even quoted me in her year book “Do not let others tell you that You cant do something or how you should feel about your self”. Come to find out her father had told her she would bot pass the certification test she was about to take. She is now going to nursing school. It is very important to be kind to yourself. My mother always said “you teach others how to treat you”. You are good enough, pretty enough, smart enough. Thank god for you Aunt Ruthie :).
Oh, aunt Ruthie! God has spoken through you in such a timely manner! We serve an amazing God!!! Thank you for being obedient to His word on your heart and being transparent with us!
Happy Sunday Dear One… What an awesome lesson, but one filled with hope for today and all of the days we are given! Thank you very much… you are a Blessing !
PS: Since I couldn’t go to church this morning because of the flu, I listened to your pastor’s sermon, and it was oh so good! Just what I needed to be reminded of! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for these words today, just when I needed to hear them. I am facing some trials and carrying some heavy burdens that I’m afraid will be too much for me and I’m afraid of failing. Your words are such an encouragement today. Thank you for sharing this wisdom.
This could have been written especially for me! I just had a counselor tell me this same thing this week AND gave me this same scripture. My little girl self was abused and I’ve spent my whole life telling my adult self that I’m not good, pretty, smart, tan, skinny….enough! I do have a picture of my little girl self in my room and I look at her like she’s a different person than who i am today. She is something to be valued and protected. But, I’ve never given my adult self that same love and care. I’m learning to take the negative thoughts captive and realize that God loves my adult self just as much as He does that little, innocent girl! Thanks for the kind and encouraging words!
Thank you. This is the third time today this message has come into my day. It won’t go away, no matter how much I try and ignore it. Guess I might as well face the music and have it out in prayer. As much as I attempt to pretend this isn’t something I need, apparently I do. Thank you for speaking truth and love into our hearts.
Thank you so much for this post today. it really ministered to my soul.
Thank you Ruthie for this beautiful post. My Father just passed away recently and I have been very depressed. I will pass this along to my daughters and granddaughters ( well one is 23 and one is 2 and a half) heck why not pass it along to my grandsons.
I love your darling photos, just so sweet.
I love receiving your wonderful posts.
That was an excellent post. I thought that I was probably the only one that felt that way about myself.
Thank you so much.
Amen, Amen, Amen! God created us in HIS image. What a great reminder of His love for us, and that if He hasn’t given up on us, we shouldn’t give up on ourselves, either! Thank you for this blog post.
Wow!! What a powerful message for us women. We never think we are good enough. It doesn’t matter how hard we work at something we still think we could’ve done better. This effects so many women. God loves us so we need to love us too!!
Dear Aunt Ruthie, cousin Ruthie :-)
I was just speaking with a friend the other day, and we were both fighting tears right there on the patio of a busy public coffee house, talking about how we both do these things and the enemy has been just crushing our spirits lately, and yet we would never say the mean things that we listen to ourselves, to another soul! Thank you for a timely reminder!
Love you dearly,
One of your biggest fans,
Cousin Nina Ruth :-)
This is beautiful and so helpful Aunt Ruthie! Thank you!
Beautiful words to strive to live by!
Precious Ruthie,
I have been hiding in bed, feeling shamed and discouraged.
This word was just what I needed to hear. Maybe my broken spirit
will be put together again. Thank you for showing me that
I am my own worse enemy. Love you
Oh Aunt Ruthie, what a wonderful post! The last couple of years God has been teaching me about his personal love for me as his daughter! I always knew that God so loved the world and I was included in that. But to learn that he loved me so personally was amazing. Your post is reinforcing that wonderful lesson! We have all been in that position of disliking ourselves at some point I think! God bless you for your love of God and us, your sisters!
Dear Ruthie,
Look at your beautiful eyes – truly windows of the soul. Thank you for this message. I watched the video and then found a photo of myself at four. That little girl is adorable. I am adorable – a beloved child of God and God does not make junk.
I recall one morning waking up and having some harsh thoughts as I looked at myself in the bathroom mirror. Then, this little voice inside me said, ‘do you think I like hearing that sort of thing?’ I laughed to myself. So true.
Thank you for being you, Ruthie, and being a blessing in our lives.
Sunny
Thank you for posting this!
Thank you!!
You have the most inspiring posts.
What a tremendous help this will be to me and many others.
Thank you.
Oh how much I needed to be reminded of this. In God’s eyes we are all precious, no matter how we look or how we lack in areas of our everyday life. There’s always room for improvement and we have the Father who is always available to help us see that image of ourselves in a different light. We are so blessed!
Oh, my word! You were just the cutest baby doll ever! I can see little Ruthie in all of your children and your grandbabies. So sweet and precious. This is such a great reminder, and I started tearing up when I watched the video. Truth! Thank you for sharing this wonderful post–one we all need to hear and heed.
Have a lovely week, sweet friend!
Amy
Precious words my sweet friend. Right where my heart is this week. I love your heart and your little girl and big girl self. Thanks for sharing this piece of yourself with us. ❤️❤️❤️
I am so glad I stumble upon your website! I am enjoying everything you post but today’s post was something I really needed to read. THANK YOU!
It’s a beautiful thing how God sends us just the right words at the right time. And your words were sent to me today from God. Thank you.
This is so timely. My inadequacies have been weighing so heavily on me and I have felt like such a fraud trying to live up to what I think I should be.
Thank you for this. You are a blessing from above girlfriend!!!
HUGS!
Kim
HI….what cute pics!!! I have pics of my husband and I when we were little kids….framed on our dresser in our bedroom. I see them each
day….and they make me smile! Thanks for sharing your sweet pictures too! Loretta
How true we say these things. I found a really great book called, What to Say When you Talk to Yourself. It really hits that nail on the head in training ourselves, our minds how to speak positive words into ourselves rather than downgrading. How much potential do we not live up to because we believe all the lies we’ve told ourselves for years? Like I used to hear when I first came to the Lord, God don’t make junk! ;)
Wow, Aunt Ruthie. Super powerful video you shared. Thank you. What cutie pies we all were and are.
Thank you for this! The Lord used you to speak the words so many of us need to hear!!!
What a wonderful post.
I am worth it, but the little girl me didn’t have all the bad habits and negative aspects the big girl me does. It would sometimes be nice to go back and redo. ; )
WOW I can see your daughters in you!!! For SURE
Great post.. I am reading through several books.. 1: One More Try by Gary Chapman, and then Power of A Praying Wife.. Stormie Omartian.. and both of them have discussions about that very thing.. The who, how and what say about ourselves and how it affects our relationship with the LoRd, our spouses and families.. So I might be thinking that this is another subtle hint from the LoRd that I need to knock it off with the low ball self deprecating statements.. I know I tell my children to stop doing that with themselves.. I should be a an example!
I have been in tears but have a new prospective look at myself. Thank you sugar pie for giving me positive and Loving truths about me…and all of us ladies who try our best to do for others, especially our families. Gods word is powerful and True! Love You!
Thanks, Ruthann! This really spoke to me. I love you cousin!
I just LOVE this! Thank you so much
Hi…was browsing thru some of last years blogs…came across the one with the cute red ck. apron! Though I do not wear aprons, I do make them and sell them!! Love them…..reminds me so much of my Grandma…she always made her aprons, and wore one each day. It was just part of her daily routine to put on an apron!! Thanks for sharing…………Loretta
You ,my dear are ONE AMAZING SISTA !!! You have a heart of gold and are a VERY talented Writer !Decorater! Mother! Grandmother !Mentor! Wife! Encourager ! Christian ! Baker ! Friend ! Farmhouse Lover ! YOU NAME IT !!! You are a BLESSING to all of us and you should be VERY proud of all of it !! Just look at your amazing family and home and blog ! Your nurturing created your beautiful home and family ! You have the Holy Spirit deep inside your soul and we are all blessed to know you through your blog ! None of us are perfect and we all have our issues ! That’s why we are human and Gods Love and Grace have saved us ! God Bless ! Take care of YOU ! Your KINDRED SPIRIT FRIEND , Cindy Lou Hoo !
I needed this today! Thank you for sharing this, and I have shared it on my Facebook page as a reminder to others too.
Oh, yes. This reminds me of one of my very favorite assignments /i used to give my high school students: to write a letter of a nixture of advice, warning, and encouragement to their younger self. The results were so heart wrenchong and sweet, bitter and blessed. Oh, I miss my classroom.
Duh: [I,mixture, wrenching…* ] Proofreader police are gonna get me. Sorry.
OH MY GOSH ,WHAT A WONDERFUL POST ,IT HAS HELPED ME SO MUCH. AS I GET OLDER I FEEL I MUST HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG IN RAISING MY 3 SONS . I LOVE THEM WITH ALL MY BEING HEART.THEY ALL HAVE THEIR FAMILIES NOW AND I START FELLING SORRY FOR MYSELF BECAUSE MY BOYS DON’T COME AND VISIT THEIR MAMA AS MUCH AS I WOULD LOVE THEM TOO. I KNOW THEY LOVE ME ,I JUST GET TO FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF SOMETIMES. I NEED TO FINE SOMETHING MORE TO KEEP MY MIND BUSY. I DO LOVE ALL YOUR POST!!! THANKS AND HAVE A WONDERFUL EASTER!!!!!! GOD BLESS
Thank you for this post!!! I attend Abundant Life Church in Lee’s Summit and our pastor just finished a series on defeating Satan and his lies. Your message talks directly to me and my heart, again thank you!!!