You know, we all have so much on our plate. So many responsibilities with so many people depending on us. I feel the pressure too. But the good news is we are here for each other! So many of you commented, in my last blog post, that it helped to read the thoughts that each sister shared and what y’all are facing. So cheer up buttercup! Together we are going to face some of these life-issues, heart to heart, with a little sass thrown in! That’s right Sistah! We aren’t gonna take these things lying down! NAW-AWW! Nope! Not even! We’ve got God on our side! Yee to the Haw! He didn’t give us His Word just to look purdy on paper! No! His Word is alive with power to move mountains! ( Matthew 17:20) We need to grab hold of God’s Word with faith as if our life depended on it…because it does. Here are some scriptures I depend on and say all the time:
- “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength” (Philippians 4:13)
- “Greater is He that is in me than he that is in the world” (1 John 4:4)
- “No weapon formed against me shall prosper.” (Isaiah 54:17)
- “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9)
Here’s the thing! I’ve learned that there’s something God wants us to learn in every situation. A lesson if you will. It’s an opportunity to trust God, have faith and gain a little-bit-O-wisdom! A golden nugget of wisdom that we can use as a stepping stone to help others down the road.
During the summer I gained a little-bit-O-wisdom that would have otherwise gone over my head like lofty clouds floating in the summer sky.
Here’s what happened: In the spring I planted my container garden just outside my kitchen door: tomatoes, peppers, basil, parsley, mint, rhubarb, and strawberries. But then in early June I left on a trip for ten days. And it rained and rained and rained. When I returned I could not believe the weeds that had grown everywhere! Even in my containers! Lord-a-Mercy! (As my mama in law would say!) Of course coming home from a trip I had to restock the house with groceries, unpack and do laundry. No time for weeding so the weeds kept growing. It rained some more. The weeds kept growing. I pulled a muscle in my back and was out of commission for a week. The weeds kept growing. Then it rained some more. Finally, on a bright and sunny day I was able to get out on my deck to tackle the tangle of weeds and to prune my overgrown tomato jungle.
I noticed that my rhubarb plant hadn’t grown much. It was very clear why. The weeds had begun to choke it. The weeds were taking over and consuming all of the nutrients, space and water. Then it struck me. That is how life is sometimes! When we get our priorities out of sync, the wrong things start to grow, choking out the best that God has planned for us.
- At home, when we neglect to keep some kind of routine to maintain household order, eventually everything becomes cluttered, disorganized, dirty and out of control: the laundry, the closets, the rooms. Then that disorder affects our emotions, our peace, our joy ( been there, done that, got the T-shirt!).
- In our relationships, when we are distracted or when we say “yes” to too many things, leaving no time for nurturing our husband or kids, then the weeds of tension can easily grow.
- When we allow the weeds of busyness to fill up our day, leaving no time to spend with the Lord, we miss out on closeness with Him, His comfort and clear direction.
- Worry, discontentment, ungratefulness, unforgiveness and bitterness are weeds that choke out the goodness in our life.
“Control your environment or your environment will control you”
~ J. Duplantis
When our life is overwhelmed with so many “weeds” what’s a gal to do?
1. Get back to basics: First, decide what’s most important. Take some time to take inventory of your life. Answer these questions; what kind of person do you want to be. How do you want your home to look and feel. What kind of wife and mother do you want to be? This will give you a target to aim for. This will help you create priorities.
Then create a checklist of standards (a rule or code that you want to live by) for yourself, your home, your spiritual life, your health, your relationships. Keep it really simple.
Then once your standards are listed and it’s time to implement them, don’t allow your “I don’t feel like doing that right now” feelings control you. These are “weeds” that will interfere with your best life.
We have to tell ourselves that we made a commitment and we are going to stick to it. That’s called discipline and integrity.
For example, if one of our spiritual standards is that we are going to give God the first few minutes of each morning and we make a committment to get up early for devotions, then we can’t allow ourselves to hit the snooze button to sleep in. No one says it’s going to be easy, but the rewards will bless your life more than you can imagine!
I love what Andy Andrews said “Can you make yourself do what you don’t want to do to get the result you want?” Yes we can!
2. Seek wisdom. There are so many tools out there that can help you get rid of “weeds” in every area of our life. Of course the best source of wisdom is The Bible and along with that there are books, podcasts, sermons, and blogs. I listen to podcasts and audiobooks every single day and I can’t even tell you how they have changed my life for the better.
3. Start: Pick an area in your life that needs attention and start small. Focus on it. Be consistent. Pull those weeds. Clear away the stuff that is hindering you from living your best and most fruitful life. “Mile by mile it’s a trial; yard by yard it’s hard; but inch by inch it’s a cinch.” ~unknown
4. Practice gratitude. If you want a life filled with goodness, thank The Lord for the goodness He has already blessed you with. Keep the weeds of complaining and discontentment out of out of your thoughts. There are people right now laying in a hospital bed, wishing, hoping, praying they could have their “normal” life back.
5. Think good thoughts. Be mindful of what you’re thinking about. Our thoughts determine whether we will have a positive or negative attitude. Our thinking creates the pathway to success or failure. What you think about yourself has such a significant affect on your life. “As a man thinks in his heart so is he.” Proverbs 23:7 You need to be your own best friend and speak to yourself with words of encouragement. Give yourself a pep-talk every day! “If you’ll change your thinking, you’ll change your actions, and that will change your outcomes which will change your life.” ~Michael Hyatt
“Whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them].” Philippians 4:8 Look for the good in people and in your life.
Whatever you’re going through—trust that God has a plan. Don’t allow the weeds of doubt to grow in your heart.God never says “oops!”. He already has everything all figured out. Keep Him first in your life and trust Him. GOD LOVES IT WHEN WE TRUST HIM!
Be willing to work for what you want.
“Let us not become weary in doing good,
for at the proper time
we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
Galatians 6:9
You my Sugar Pie are strong, brave, precious and beautiful. God has given you the ability to accomplish great things! If you feel like a failure you’re not!! We all fall down sometimes. Don’t give up! Pull up your cute cowgirl bootstraps! Get back on that horse… you have an amazing destiny waiting for you! Happy Trails darlin’!
God Bless your darlin’ heart!
Aunt Ruthie
I love your blog posts! Thank you for always encouraging us with your wisdom and love!
Love this message today. :)
Sometimes when worries overwhelm, I have to chant to myself to take things one thing at a time. It helps.
Yes, yes there are always lessons to be learned from life around us but especially the outdoors, creation, nature. When I need focus or clarity on something spiritual I can usually find it outdoors..
Thank you so much for this post! So very encouraging and helpful and I like the farm feel to it, God bless you
Thank you for the wonderful encouragement!!! I have been waiting for a new blog from you.
What a lovely post! Thank you for the encouragement. I’ve been spending the summer doing weeding of my own and I can feel the stress rolling off my shoulders with each area of my home, health, and spirit that I tackle. You are a blessing to me Aunt Ruthie!!
Wonderful blog post, as always Ruthie! Timely advice. Your posts are definitely worth the wait.
Thank you!!!
((Hugs))
“Be willing to work for what you want.” GREAT comment! Many in our society have gotten quite lazy and it is so easy to do with all of the distractions, mainly the Internet and TV! If we want clean and tidy homes, we must work for them! If we want nourishing, yummy meals, we must take the time to fix them. If we want a great marriage, we must be willing to learn how to be a godly and submissive help meet. These all take WORK!
Thank you, Thank you for the wonderful goodies! They couldn’t be more timely for me right now!! I am extremely blessed by your encourement and reminders of a Godly home! YOU ARE A BLESSING! I shall enjoy my treasures for years to come.
Blessings to you and yours!
Wonderful blog! Have been waiting for it ‘n it did not disappoint! Thanks so much for all the encouragement you dish out to us gals — I just know that everyone appreciates it so!!!
Thank you sweet doll! You blessed me! Luv you!
Cat-
Thanks for writing this….really needed to hear this today. You are a blessing.
I am so grateful for the encouragement you give, for the Bible verses you tie in……you BLESS my heart every.single.time. I read your blog. I regularly REREAD posts when I am discouraged or just need a little boost in my spirit and want to make my house pretty. :) I get just what I need when I reread old posts. Thank you for letting the Lord use you to minister to others. Thank you for rewriting this post for the 3rd time.
love the analogy! Thank you!
I just love you! You are a very sweet and tenderhearted person. Your words are so uplifting and so encouraging, tears come to my eyes. You are real. So when you say that you care and love us, it’s real, and I appreciate that. Thank you for being led by God and reaching out to us. I am so very glad I found your blog in 2010…you have touched my heart, and for that, I am grateful. Many blessings to you Aunt Ruthie. Love and Hugs.
Well first, congratulations Tiara! Woohoo!!! And thank you, dear Ruthann for the encouragement. Your blog post will give me great things to ponder as I weed and harvest my small garden every morning. Like you life has ‘happened’ and a few setbacks have me struggling to keep up with the garden that I enthusiastically planted in hopes of feeding my family. It has been a physical and spiritual journey recently but one of growth and now that deep heat has set in here things are growing like crazy! Weeds, my grandbaby, zucchini and hopefully soon squash and tomatoes. Good luck with your rhubarb…I’ve had so much fun with mine. May the rest of your summer be blessed.
Hi Ruthie
I just love blog.! I feel like everything you say is so inspiring! God filled words and wisdom from above . I have been giving God my first thoughts every morning it has really made a difference in how the rest of the day goes. I am 60 years old and I love homemaking and teaching my granddaughters how to cook bake and sew and have fun doing it. Today I taught them some scripture. Thank you my friend for always teaching us what is true and modeling God’s love so we can share it with others. Kathy.
I love this encouraging post. Thank you so much for always sharing such uplifting messages on your blog . You have no idea how much I look forward to each new post and what a blessing your blog is to me and So many others. Blessings to you Ruthie , love you Bunches!
Thank you for your encouraging words and positive thinking. We all need to be reminded of what we can accomplish if we just decide to do so.
Have a nice, summer weekend !
Tina xxx
Dear Aunt Ruthie … thank you so much for your words of encouragement and inspiration. You are such a sweet blessing. Hugs ♥ Teri
Thank you for this post. It spoke to my heart.
Thank You soooo much Aunt Ruthie! I appreciate all that you do! Have a wonderful month!
I love your beautiful blog and your posts. I needed this one today because I am feeling very discouraged right now. This is the second e-mail today that really touched me, the first one featured me on their blog and had such kind things to say. Thank you for reminding me their are good kind people in this world.
Pam
Your words were just what I needed to read this morning. Thank you and God bless you.
Exactly what I needed to start my day!
Perfectly written for my life and I’m sure so many others. Just what I needed. Love you!
Loved this post. I needed a loving kick in the pants! I sent the post to a dear friend who needed encouragement. So well done, thank you.
Hope you are feeling better.
enjoyed reading this today, since it was just what I needed to see! thank you and enjoy a good harvest!
Like many others, I too, am carrying some burdens that has caused my “garden to become full of weeds”. Thank you for the encouraging words. It’s just what I needed today.
Your, or should I say, God’s timing is perfect… your museing about “weeds in our garden”… was just what I needed… I have been letting stupid little things build up and make me a groussy kinda person……
“◾Worry, discontentment, ungratefulness, unforgiveness and bitterness are weeds that choke out the goodness in our life.”… so true!…
So today is my day to spend some time in my “Garden of Weedin’ ” and get busy clearing out the weeds of my brain and heart.,
Hugz and Thank you
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I’m going to get at “weedin’ my garden” today, “inch by inch”! Thank you for such an encouraging post!
Love your blog. You always make my day seem better.
As always, such wonderful words of wisdom! You are such a blessing and God has sure given you the gift of encouragement to glorify Him. Thank you for following Him and being faithful in your unique ministry:)
Thank you for having the sweet giveaway and congrat’s to the winner
Thank you for praying for me…truly blessed me reading that you took the time to pray. I find your blog very helpful and thank you for that too!
warmly,
deb
Love the quotes from the bible! I use them too! The weeds are crazy this year ! We have been overwhelmed in the garden ! Well! We just keep on pullin on ! We are getting ready for horsesNow! Yeeeeehaaaaw! So exciting but lots to do to prepare! I have a beautiful! Sweet paint! Her name is Annie! Still looking for the perfect horse for hubby! Preparing the stalls in the barn and getting tack and so forth! Whew! Lots of planning but lots of fun on our farm! We have seven adorable chickens we raised from babies and a beautiful rooster that’s sounds the alarm every morning at 6 30 am! Perfect timing! When we call his name,Mr.Boss man! He crows! Ha! They are so much fun! Really enjoying the goats too! This whole process has been great! Love the farm life! Very blessed! Hope all is well with you and your beautiful family!!! Take care! Cindy
I love all of your blog posts. This one was especially wonderful. What an inspiration you are and what a great example! Thank you for YOU and for all that you do. God bless!
Was really feeling low today what with my husbands cancer
therapy making him feel not so good. But you brought me up
again. Thank you, Ruthie, and may God continue to bless you.
Great, inspiring post– thank you. “Aim at Heaven and you will get earth “thrown in”; aim at earth and you will get neither” ( C S Lewis )
THANK YOU AUNT RUTHIE, I SO NEEDED TO HEAR YOUR SWEET WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT AND INSPIRATIONS RIGHT NOW. YES, GOD IS ALWAYS HERE, BUT HOW EASY IT IS TO OFTEN FORGET THE ONE WHO ALWAYS GIVES AND NEVER LETS YOU DOWN. YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL WAY OF REMINDING US AND ALWAYS MAKING THINGS BETTER. BLESSINGS UPON YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
Yes, yes, and yes again:) lifes battles are won in prayer! looking forward to your next post:)
Thank you, for your sweet, sincere encouragement. The weed analogy was so helpful to me and then you followed with a list of HOW to pull those weeds. It was just what I needed to hear. I’ve been letting life get me down and the ‘weeds’ have grown thick. I now have the motivation to get at them. Thank you. I look forward to every new ‘message’ from you. :)
What a wonderful message–it blessed me tremendously.
Thank you SO MUCH for the wisdom and encouragement! I love the weed analogy – it is so true. I’ve seen it in my own life. I had let myself get out of my routine of my daily tasks little by little and I had let things (clutter) build up and ignore it until my environment was controlling me! It was an overwhelming feeling and I would describe it as claustrophobic to my husband at times. :) I remember early this Spring I cried to myself and said, “Will my house ever be clean?!?!?” and the very next day it was hit by a tornado and destroyed by historic rainfall. Oh…those words and the place where my heart was is something I will never forget. Thankfully, even in the midst of all that chaos the Lord managed to help us save the things in my house that were the most important and irreplaceable! You are right…the Lord is teaching me so many things about my life and about the person I am through this experience. I joke to my friends that there is nothing like a tornado hitting your house to help you declutter a bit! I appreciate you and your blog so much!
Good advice. It is so easy to let things drag us down — we have to keep trying!
Your words of wisdom and encouragement came at the perfect time! So appreciate your blog. Thanks for sharing your heart……..
Well, you,ve done it again, Aunt Ruthie: Encouraged, inspired and blessed! Thank you for ministering to all of us! For most us, you only see a name, but it’s clear that you envision us as daughters and nieces, sisters and friends, and grandmas and aunts. Thank you for building into our lives and living by example. Your hard work and persistence is evident- I can’t imagine what this post would say if I had to write it for the 3rd time ;-).
What a truly lovely post in all aspects. Really spoke to me this evening and it’s so true how things can be stressful and challenge us in life. I’ve always enjoyed reading your blog and seeing the pride you take in your home and raising a family. :-) Enjoy the rest of the weekend!
Many blessings,
Jill
Right on SISTA (mia cugina)…..awesome blog
Congratulations Tiara!! You are one lucky gal ;-) What a wonderful little gathering of goodies to receive..
Thank You Aunt Ruthie for another uplifting and motivational post.. You are just so inspirational and encouraging.. Your blog is my go to for comfort, courage and motivation.. I am so thankful to you for being here to cheer all of us homemakers on.. Reading through all of the comments on the previous post I see that we all struggle in some way with our responsibilities as wives and moms.. I visit your blog almost daily in my few little minutes of “me” time.. I read through older posts, look through the pictures of your beautiful home and leave feeling positive and inspired :-)
So. so helpful, Aunt Ruthie! Thanks so much for sharing biblical wisdom and encouragement with all of us.
Thank you so much for your post! You are always so encouraging, not with just fluff but something truly helpful. I hope one day you make more videos too!
Thank you so much for your perspective and encouraging spiritual words! They came at the exact right moment, which we know is no mistake :-)! God Bless You!!!!!
Ruthie, we are blessed by a woman of faith here at this lovely, little worded respite! My prayer is that someone in need of a spiritual ‘helping hand’ will land here and be encouraged and triumph!
God Bless You Ruthie,
Barbara.
Lovely, wise, encouraging and true! Thank you. xx
Thank you for this post! I needed it. I am always happy when you have a new post up. It is a bright spot in my day. Thank you for your encouraging words. They help more than you can know.
Thank you for the encouraging words! Off topic: do you know what movie the Doris Day picture is from? Thanks again, have a blessed evening~
Thank you for sharing! My heart was uplifted from your encouraging words. You have a special gift.
Thank you for this Ruthann!
Congratulations to Tiara :)
xo,
rue
Hi Ruthann,
Would love to know what podcasts you listen to!
Hi Ruthie, and thanks again for taking the time to encourage us. I have found (recently) one tool that will help me live a less busy, more productive, intentional life with my children… I found it on a website http://www.titus2.com. It was a scheduling tool especially for homeschooling families. I have only just started using some if the ideas in their book, Managers of Their Homes, but it had really good reviews too. Since I read a few of the comments on your last blog that were written by other moms with small children, homeschooling, I thought I’d share that resource, even though I haven’t fully used all the schedule ideas in it. It’s already helped me, especially on days when I’m too tired to think, what would be good to do next? I can go to the schedule and say, oh yeah! Crafts time! :)
I feel blessed to have stumbled upon this post! My husband and I are struggling with health and finances- thank you for reminding me to have faith in God and His perfect plan for our lives!
I ordered “Let’s decorate for fall y’all” on July 24, 2015. .$10.00 was charged to my Amex.
The order number is EU826410924.
My address is 1308 Timber Ridge Dr., Euless, TX 76039. Today is August 10, 2015 and this product has not been delivered. Could you check to see if you have the correct address?
I really enjoy how you minister to the glory of our Lord. You have a great web site and I am sure the Lord is proud of you. Keep on going…even on those days when things do not go as planned.
LOVE!
This is a perfectly beautiful illustration… Thank You!
I just discovered your wonderful website! After over 3 decades of pursuing my college education and working as a volunteer chaplain and teacher in several arenas, I am returning to the things I loved as a little girl and as a young mom: homemaking, e.g., baking, sewing, canning, gardening, etc. We live in the country and have the opportunity to enjoy all things rural. Your godly counsel is so needed in today’s culture. Thank you for sharing uplifting, empowering words. I hope to visit your website often.
You touched my heart! Exactly what I needed to hear! God Bless!
I was hoping to find something like this today as I was searching for wisdom. A homemaker is a hard job, I enjoy it so much though, but some days I just need to hear things like this. It helps put me back into balance and gives me the motivation to strive to be the best I can be. I am so grateful for your blog. I enjoy reading it and I am thankful for the help that you share.
Thanks for sweet message
I haven’t been on your blog in a couple years,so glad I came back,you’re Amazing ☺️
Hello,
I found your blog through a picture you posted in 2010. Finding it was actually very serendipitous, because I am horribly depressed today, almost suicidal. Your post was very uplifting, & I wanted you to know I appreciated it.
Thank you for that post…. you have a special magic-ness about you…. I think it’s your mama hen way about ya… I always smile and cheer up after reading your posts.. Thank you for the positive push to a good day!!!!!! Sending lots of love from California……
Thank you!!!! For the blessings! Yee to the haw right back at ya! I feel as if the Spirit guided you right to what my heart needs to hear. May God bless you and your “ministry of sunshine”.
May God bless you today, Ruthie, and know that you are doing a good thing to help us all!!
Always so uplifting and encouraging, right when I need it!!
Thank you Aunt Ruthie.
Lisa W.- “Calamity Jane” is the name of the Doris
Day movie musical with Doris Day and Howard Keel.
One of my fav’s and my daughter loved it as a little girl!
Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. They are so blessed. God bless you.
That was so encouraging ! Blessings to you .
I love your advice to just start: pick one area and be consistent and pull those weeds. I’m always trying to do it all… work on the way I talk to my girls (being patient), work on keeping up with my house, work on adding in time with God in the morning. I love the idea of picking one area and working on that first. Thank you as always for this sweet advice.
Thank You Thank You Thank You for this Post Today……..I follow You & always look so forward to all You have for Us. Today, only God knows HOW MUCH HE used this to Encourage, Inspire & Rejuvenate me to KEEP ON KEEPING ON…….I Love You & again Thank YOU for ALL YOU do for US……….God’s Blessings & High Favor be Upon YOU ALL………LOVE & HUGS, DEB……..
Oh my! Thank you. I am going through some rough times right now emotionally and really needed to hear that. Thank you for reminding us that God is true!!!!!
Thank you so much for your encouragement! I really needed it today! God Bless!
You are better than any vitamin ❤️
This is so perfect for how I’ve been feeling this week! ❤️ Thanks for the encouragement!